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“I love you” are powerful words. And you count on them to help sustain your relationship. When you and your partner are pulled in different directions — jobs, kids, friends, family, meetings — sometimes a quick “I love you” is all either of you can manage at the end of the day.

But it’s crucial to also show your love, says Beverly Palmer, professor emeritus of psychology at the University of California, Dominguez Hills. Actions reinforce the words, backing up your feelings and making your relationship stronger. “There’s evidence behind it — actions really do speak loader than words,” she says.

Showing love doesn’t require dramatic displays of affection. Nor does it take a lot of time or energy. These simple strategies send your message loud and clear:

1. Respond to a need.

“The best way of expressing love is by anticipating a need of your partner’s and fulfilling it,” says Palmer. This shows that you listen to him and that his well-being and happiness is important to you.

The key is to pay attention. For example, if your mate is stressed about work, make an effort to take on some of his personal or household chores for a while. Or you could take the kids out so he can have some quiet time. Has he been putting off an errand? Run it for him. If the gas tank is empty at the end of the week, go fill it up on Sunday so he’s ready for the week’s commute. Don’t underestimate the power of an occasional thoughtful gesture.

2. Share a laugh.
A study from Appalachian State University found that laughing together over memories strengthens a couple’s bond. “All relationships have times of conflict and difficulty,” says Palmer. Encouraging laughter ensures there’s some positivity to outweigh the negativity. “That’s what creates a sustainable love relationship.”

So send your mate an email when something funny happens or your kid says something outrageous. Or search YouTube for a blast-from-the-past commercial or funny video clip to email or post on his Facebook page. On a special occasion, give your mate a scrapbook full of goofy family photos and mementos with a funny memory associated with them.

3. Be full of surprises.
An unexpected gift or gesture says “You’re special,” says Palmer. “It shows that you think of him and feel connected to him even when you’re not together.”

A meaningful surprise comes from being observant. For example, if you happen to find something that relates to a topic or activity of interest to your mate, bring it home. It might be a book, CD, DVD or game. If money is tight, borrow the item from the library.

Love letters also make great surprises. Instead of writing just one, though, surprise him with five! In each, write about one thing that makes him a terrific dad, then hide them around the house: in his sock drawer, by his toothbrush, tucked inside the book on his nightstand and so on.

4. Make eye contact.
“Looking into each other’s eyes signals you are deeply connected,” says Palmer. Most busy couples, however, manage only quick glances.

You needn’t spend hours or even minutes gazing at each other. Take advantage of opportunities for eye contact that last longer than a few seconds. If you have a dinner date, lock eyes during your conversation. Share a look and a smile at the family dinner table. Face each other as you chat in bed before falling asleep. Even when surrounded by others, seek out your partner’s eyes and make a quick connection.

5. Spend time together.
It sounds obvious, but sharing quality time is better than saying “I love you” a thousand times.

Once in a while, suggest an activity that incorporates one of your partner’s interests, even if it doesn’t coincide with your own. The unselfish act shows that you cherish different sides of him.

For the man who loves sports, for example, suggest that the family attend a game together at the local high school. Or if he enjoys crosswords, get a few puzzle books so everyone can sit around at breakfast swapping answers.

6. Hug, hold hands and cuddle.
Physically connecting with someone is the most natural way to express love. But after several years together, nonsexual touch often falls by the wayside, says Palmer.

Revive it whenever you are together — whether at home, watching your kid’s soccer game or even at a party: Pick up and squeeze his hand, place your hand on his back. Sit close. Give him a hug goodbye and hello. And instead of sitting in separate chairs, cuddle up on the couch together once in a while.

“Women aren’t the only ones who want romance. Both genders want and need it,” says Palmer. And by showing your love with these gestures, chances are your partner will start reciprocating in kind.

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Introducing your boyfriend to your father for the first time is a major step. It means that your relationship is not fly-by-night, and it’s worth overcoming the cringe-worthy scenarios you’re undoubtedly imagining. To make sure this encounter will be successful, you have to understand your father’s concerns and prepare yourself emotionally for what can become, for better or worse, one of your lifetime memories!

Chances are he expects you to live at home until you get married. He probably finds divorce unacceptable. He was raised to believe that relatives are more important than friends and worries that you are not as attached to traditional values as he would wish. So how can you communicate to him how much it means to you that he likes your guy? Definitely not by sneaking behind your father’s back. The answer lies in listening carefully to what your dad says.

Before bringing your boyfriend home, make sure you tell your dad you love him for wanting the best for you and that this guy makes you feel happy and cared for. Ask him to be grateful that you are with someone who treats you so well. If he is uncomfortable with your choice based on racism, classism, or religious biases, he’s probably concerned with how the rest of the family will react and if you will be “labeled.” Tell him quietly you do not share his views and can’t live your life according to opinions you don’t consider valid. Try to make it clear you are in a relationship, not the middle of a debate about social justice.

If he objects on other grounds, try to stay calm while you consider whether any of his concerns are reasonable. If he finds fault with your boyfriend’s reputation, listen to what he’s heard, who he’s heard it from, and when he heard it. If what he tells you is brand-new to you, you will have to ask a few questions and honestly look at the answers you are given. Is the source unreliable? If he finds fault with your boyfriend’s behavior, is he out of line or does he have a point? Be prepared to point out if he is being nitpicky or blinded by his love for you.

If he is disturbed by changes in your behavior that he blames on your boyfriend, he just might be having trouble with the fact that you are in love and growing up. But if he is in any way justified in his complaints, remember love rarely changes us in ways that are dangerous or self-destructive. Using respectful language and behavior in your everyday interactions is important. Acting respectfully demonstrates maturity, and your dad is more likely to see you as capable of making important decisions if he sees you caring about how he feels. Always be truthful even if he doesn’t like the truth, never sneak around and never give up trying to understand where he’s coming from.

By Girl World Daily, a publication of Studio One Networks

Model: G De Leon, MyFameandFortune.com

A club? The mere thought of it sends most parents into a tailspin! Why, you ask? What’s the big deal anyway? Well, going to a club is a big deal. You are out in a public place with hundreds of other teens from all over your area. Since most clubs have a pretty varied age requirement— 18 year olds and up, you are also hanging around in an environment with much older teens. And like it or not, older teens often take advantage of younger, more inexperienced teens.

But all you want to do is dance, right? Although you’re not looking for trouble, trouble may find you. If you think you can handle the crowd, why not learn these safety tips for teen clubbing. Let your parents know you are aware of the “rules,” and maybe, next time they will let you go. Maybe!

Travel in a Large Group. You’ve heard this before, but it is advice that never goes out of style. There is safety in numbers. If you are planning a night at a club, go with lots of friends. Then initiate the buddy system. Everyone should have a partner she is responsible for. This way, if you are out on the dance floor with a guy who gets a little “touchy,” your partner can come to your rescue.

Invite some guys along. Even if you are going to meet new guys, ask some of your old favorite guy friends along for, well, protection. Not that you should expect trouble around every corner, but other kids are less likely to mess with a group of guys and girls.

Don’t leave your drink, your food or your purse unattended at any time. It may be an overreaction, but it is better to be safe than sorry. There are hundreds of stories about strangers who slipped drugs or alcohol into girls’ drinks at parties and clubs. Hopefully, the stories aren’t true but it doesn’t hurt to be cautious.

Don’t leave the club with a stranger—and we define a stranger as anyone you met that night! Even if you are having a great time talking to a new cute guy, stay in the club!

Ask for adult assistance. If you find you are in an uncomfortable situation, find the club manager, waiter or waitress, anyone adult. Don’t feel embarrassed. An adult will quickly handle any problem you may have.

Dress appropriately. If you are dressed for trouble (with too much skin showing), then trouble will find you. There is a way to look cool and attractive without giving the impression that you’re looking for sex. You must take responsibility for your image, particularly in a teen club.

Don’t give out your cell phone number or your email address. If you think you met a nice boy, give him your home phone number. A boy with bad intentions is less likely to call your house and talk to your mom.

Carry a cell phone with you (or money to make a phone call in an emergency). Let your mom and dad (or another adult) know where you are and how you are getting there. Don’t walk or take rides from strangers.

Check out the reputation of the club you are going to. Some clubs have better reputations than others. Does your club tend to attract an older, rowdier crowd? Maybe this isn’t the right mix for you.

Teen clubbing should be reserved for girls who can handle themselves in large crowds. If you are at all apprehensive about going to a club, then don’t go! There are plenty of other exciting ways to spend your time!

By Girl World Daily, a Studio One Networks publication

1) True or False? Scotty and Lauren each signed record deals already!

2) True or False? Scotty and Lauren will both appear on the 2011 CMT Music Awards show next week.

3) True or False? Scotty and Lauren are dating each other.

Answers:

1) True! Both singers just signed on the dotted line with Universal Music Group label Mercury Nashville. No time wasted getting these teens into the recording studio!

2) Yep, it’s true. See ’em this Wednesday, June 8, at 8 p.m. ET on Country Music Television. Oh, and Justin Bieber will be there too, thanks to his collaboration with Rascal Flatts on “That Should Be Me.”

3) Dunno, sorry! We have no way of knowing if Scotty is serenading Lauren when he sings “I Love You This Big.” But the truth always rises to the top over time. Remember when similar rumors were swirling about Selena Gomez and The Bieb?!

By Girl World Daily, a Studio One Networks publication

Congratulations on your healthy curiosity about what’s happening. You and your body are changing a lot right now, or you will be soon, and this section explains the changes that happen during puberty.

Puberty is a name for the time when you start to change from a child to an adult. Puberty is normal—it happens to everyone. You may be looking forward to puberty or dreading it—or feel both ways! You’ll go through a lot of changes, but you will still be YOU—with some important differences. Try to think of it as one of the great adventures of your life, because it is.

What is Female Puberty?

You’ve changed a lot since you were born, even more since you were a little kid, and you’ll change a whole lot more before you become an adult. Puberty is when your body begins to biologically mature.

The main change during female puberty is the development of sexual characteristics, like breasts and the growth of pubic hair. When puberty is complete, a girl is physically able to have a baby.

The physical and emotional changes of puberty don’t always happen together. It’s possible that you could begin to mature emotionally before any physical changes happen. In other words—you could feel older but still look like a kid or you could look older, but still feel like a kid. Adolescence can be kind of crazy because you’re no longer a child, but you’re not yet an adult. The more aware you are of what’s happening, the easier and less confusing it will be.

Female Puberty: The Scientific Explanation

If you’re interested in the scientific explanation of what happens during puberty—read on. Basically puberty is all about hormones. Hormones are chemicals that have different jobs throughout the body. As you get older, your brain starts to make special hormones that are necessary for your ability to bear children. As you approach puberty, both the brain and something called the pituitary gland begin releasing hormones. These hormones are sent to your ovaries, and stimulate the ovaries to produce estrogen.

Hormones cause many of the physical and emotional changes that take place during puberty. Growth hormone is also produced in the pituitary gland, and is responsible for the growth spurt, including the lengthening of long bones (legs and arms), and the overall increase in size of the body and internal organs (such as the heart, lungs, and uterus).

When Does Female Puberty Happen?

Puberty can start when you’re 7 or not until you’re 13, but it usually starts when you’re 10. The process can take anywhere between 1 1/2 to 4 years. Generally, girls can expect their first period about 2-3 years after the first signs of breast development.

Here are some clues that will help determine when you will get your period and begin puberty:

Heredity—ask your mother or other female relative how old she was when she had her first period. You’ll probably get yours at the same age.

(Note: Doctors have found that the age of puberty is about a year younger now than it was for your mother’s age group.)

Race—African American girls usually show signs of puberty a bit earlier than Caucasian girls.

Weight —very thin girls begin to menstruate a bit later; heavier girls may begin early.

Girls who develop earlier than most of their friends often feel “weird” or self-conscious. That’s normal. But girls who develop later than most also feel strange – kind of left out of the club. Remember, eventually all girls get to be young women in their own time.

Developments During Female Puberty

What’s happening to my body?

Here are the main things that might already be happening, or that will happen soon. It’s okay if these things haven’t happened yet. Changes usually happen in the order listed below, but this may not be in the order that they happen to you.

Growing really fast

You may grow faster than you did during childhood. This is known as a “growth spurt.” First, you may notice your feet and hands getting bigger. Next, the arm and leg bones grow, making you taller. This may be an awkward time until the rest of the body catches up. Once it does, your body will be more proportional. You may also gain some weight to match the increase in your bone size.

Getting breasts

Your breasts develop in stages. At first you may notice what feel like little “buds,” or swellings, under your nipples. After that your breasts will gradually get bigger and fuller, and may become a little sore. One breast may grow more than the other at first, but they’ll even out later (most women have one breast that is larger than the other, but the difference is usually small). Remember, every girl is different. How large or small your breasts become depends on the physical, genetic traits in your family. Full breast development takes two to three years.

Growing body hair

Soon, curly hair will start growing in the pubic area, the area that extends from your lower stomach to between your legs. In some girls, pubic hair may appear before breast development. At first, this hair is soft and there’s not much of it. Later, the hair grows longer and becomes a little kinky and curly. Although it starts growing between the legs, it eventually covers the entire pubic area and may include the upper, inner thighs. This usually takes two to three years. A few months after pubic hair begins to grow, hair will also grow under your arms.

A more “womanly” shape

As your pelvis (the large bone across your hips) begins to grow, your hips get wider, your breasts develop and your waist gets smaller. In other words, girls’ bodies become softer and more shapely. Some girls also gain weight quickly during this time.

Increased sweating

Your sweat glands will become larger and more active, and you’ll sweat more. This may happen even before your breasts develop.

Oily skin and hair

During female puberty, the pores in your skin produce more oil, especially on your face. This can cause acne. You may have to wash your hair and face more often now that you’re going through puberty.

Changes in your genitals

Your genitals also grow and change during puberty. Your outside parts (the vulva) are enclosed by two sets of “lips.” The larger lips have hair; the inner, smaller lips don’t. These increase in size a little bit. Inside your body the vagina is getting longer and the uterus is getting bigger.

Discharge

This is a word for fluid that’s produced by your body to moisten and cleanse the vagina. Before you start your period, you’ll probably notice yellow or white stains inside your underwear. This is natural moisture from the vagina. It’s perfectly normal and it’s a sign that menstruation will probably start in about 6 to 18 months. You could start wearing pantiliners to help protect your panties.

The discharge may be heavy or barely noticeable — both are normal. However, if the discharge has a bad smell or you have any pain, soreness, or itching in the genital area, it may be a sign of infection. In this case, you should see a doctor.

Your period

Menstruation can be very unpredictable for the first 2 years. It typically takes 1-2 years for cycles to develop, so you may not be regular for a while. The next section will tell you all about menstruation.

What’s happening to my brain?

You may have already noticed that you’re changing emotionally. Some changes are really positive—others are more challenging. Here are some things you might be feeling:

Your thinking changes

It’s called cognitive development—and it means you’re now able to think more abstractly—more like an adult than a kid.

You can express your feelings a lot better

Your feelings might start to make a lot more sense to you. You may find that you can express what you’re feeling a lot better, whether you’re feeling happy or sad. This gives you a clearer sense of self—of who you are.

You feel really emotional

You may get mad at parents and friends easily. A little thing that wouldn’t have bothered you earlier drives you crazy now. Your kid sister might really get on your nerves. Feeling angry is normal during puberty because of the hormonal changes. In fact, for the same reason, many women get edgy right before their periods.

“Mood swings” are also common throughout puberty. This is when you feel really happy one minute and then really angry or even sad the next minute. So if you’re feeling angry you may want to count to 10 (it works!) and think about it before you yell at your mom or friend.

You cry a lot

You may cry because of something very serious that makes you feel sad or disappointed—or you may burst into tears because you left your favorite hair band in the gym. This is also normal! It happens to a lot of women having Premenstrual Syndrome too, and will happen to most girls throughout puberty. Just accept that you’re a little emotional right now.

You feel a lot more womanly

Some girls find that they’re feeling more feminine. Whether you prefer playing hockey with the guys or talking about nail polish, remember—it’s normal!

You think you’re weird

You probably compare yourself to your friends, and feel like there’s something really wrong with you. You may feel unsure of yourself. Well guess what? Everyone else does, too! Your personality is growing and you’re becoming even more unique—just when all you want is to fit in more easily! Fortunately, your personality will win this one, and you’ll become a self-assured adult. Just remember that everyone else your age is self-conscious too, so chances are they won’t be worrying about you!

It’s only puberty: don’t freak out

We keep telling you how normal all of this is for a reason—it really is normal! If you can keep from freaking out, you can use this special time in your life to learn about yourself. Here are some ways to keep from freaking out:

Take care of yourself—be careful with food cravings (like wanting only ice cream for dinner). Eat plenty of fruits and vegetables. Exercise. This is good for your body and mind. Taking out your anger on a tennis ball or treadmill can make you feel great again, too.

• Talk to someone—amazingly, parents and teachers can be really helpful, and you can count on other adults, too, if you’re more comfortable with that (see Who To Talk To . Your friends might really appreciate knowing that you’re going through the same thing they are, but don’t depend on them for real information. Go to someone who’s been through it.
• Concentrate on school and hobbies—your brain is growing, and this is a great opportunity to use it. The hobbies that you liked in the past will be even more fun now, and you’ll develop new interests. Do something creative to express all your new emotions.

Who can I talk to about this stuff?

Adults

The first person you talk to should be an adult, because someone your own age may not have their facts straight, even if they think they do. It’s important for you to get the right answers to your questions.

It’s great if you and your mother or some other adult have already talked about lots of stuff. Then, asking questions is a piece of cake. But in some families, talking about the body is limited to what to eat and how to take care of your teeth. Most girls need to get up their courage. They may feel awkward and embarrassed. That’s perfectly normal, but don’t let that stop you from talking to someone, because talking to someone about what you feel (whether it’s fear, worry, happiness, or confusion) is a big relief and a comfort.

Friends & relatives

In many families, there may be someone instead of a mother whom you feel more comfortable with, such as your stepmother, father, a grandma, aunt, or older sister. Some girls talk with a teacher, the school nurse, or their doctor. Others may know a friend’s mother who’s easy to talk to.

Timing is everything

Once you decide whom to talk to, you’ll want to choose the right time. For example, if you want to ask your mother, wait for a time that she isn’t busy doing other things. If your mother seems to be busy all the time, you may want to say, “Mom, there’s something I’d like to talk to you about when you have time.” This way, you won’t keep putting off the discussion.

You are the best judge of how to talk to the people in your life, but this may be one way to approach the subject. We suggest that before you have the conversation, you first write down your questions. This way, you won’t forget any. However you do it, both of you are likely to feel glad you talked.

Girl World Daily is a valuable online resource targeting the needs and interests of preteen and teen girls dealing with the challenges of growing up. Covering the areas of health, entertainment, relationships, fun and more, Girl World Daily provides must-know information, with a few surprises along the way. It also seeks to empower girls and act as a friend and trusted advisor during these totally awesome, but often complicated, years.

By Girl World Daily, a Studio One Networks publication

By Girl World Daily, a Studio One Networks publication

Model: Ayriss Malejana, PFR Teen Model

By Girl World Daily, a Studio One Networks publication

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